Therapy for High-Performing Women in California and Utah
Specializing in burnout, anxiety, chronic stress, grief, and effects from traumatic experiences
Burned Out, but Still Holding it Together?
You wake up tired before the day begins and your mind starts running immediately. Work responsibilities, client needs, family obligations, and decisions that cannot wait all stack up before your feet hit the floor.
Your body feels heavy, but you get up anyway. You always do.
By the end of the day you’re exhausted, yet your mind refuses to shut off. You replay conversations, think about what you missed, and plan tomorrow before today has even ended.
Somewhere along the way, everything started feeling harder. You feel more irritable and more depleted. Sometimes, you quietly wonder if the problem might be you.
When Survival Mode Becomes the Norm
When stress goes on long enough, your nervous system stays “on” all the time.
You want the quiet when you get home, but responsibilities are waiting: dinner, laundry, emails, the dog, the endless mental load.
You may notice yourself snapping at loved ones, withdrawing from conversations, or avoiding plans because you simply don’t have the energy.
Life slowly becomes something you manage rather than something you experience.
If this feels familiar, you are not broken. Your body has likely been in a prolonged stress response for so long that being “on” feels normal.
This is nervous system dysregulation, not weakness.
The Quiet Signs of High-Achiever Burnout
Burnout in high-achieving women rarely looks dramatic. More often, it looks like competence. You are still functioning, still managing, still producing. Yet underneath that competence is:
emotional exhaustion that sleep doesn’t fix
brain fog and difficulty concentrating
numbness or detachment at work and hobbies
a quiet sense that something feels “off” even when life looks fine from the outside
For many high-performing women, productivity becomes tied to identity. Being capable, responsible, and reliable may have been reinforced long before adulthood.
You may have been the helper, the “old soul”, or the child who didn’t cause problems. Over time, being the one who holds things together becomes part of how you understand your value. When these patterns continue for years without adequate recovery, the nervous system remains in a prolonged stress response which is often where burnout develops.
What Burnout Actually is
Clinically, burnout includes emotional exhaustion, detachment or cynicism, and a reduced sense of efficacy despite evidence of success. It is not a character flaw. It is a physiological and psychological response to prolonged stress without adequate recovery.
When your nervous system remains in fight-or-flight for extended periods, your body stays on high alert. Over time, rest stops feeling restorative and even positive experiences begin to feel flat.
When insight has not resolved it, when vacations do not restore you, and when productivity strategies only make you more efficient at overextending yourself, it is usually a sign that the pattern lives deeper than mindset.
EMDR Online for Burnout Recovery
Tyler specializes in working with women experiencing burnout, chronic stress, anxiety, and effects from traumatic experiences
I’m Tyler Dawneé Young, LCSW and therapist in Palm Desert, CA. I provide EMDR online throughout California and Utah. My style is warm, humorous, and grounded. Therapy with me isn’t about endlessly analyzing your stress. It’s about identifying the patterns driving it and helping your nervous system shift out of survival mode.
Using EMDR and other evidence-based approaches, we often work with beliefs and thoughts such as:
I am not good enough
if I ask for help, I look incapable
my value is tied to my professional success
Over time, these beliefs can quietly shape how you approach work, relationships, and view life. EMDR helps the brain reprocess the experiences that reinforced these patterns so your nervous system no longer has to operate in constant overdrive.
As this shift begins to happen, clients often report:
less anxiety and mental noise
more self-confidence
clearer boundaries
greater presence in their daily lives
improved energy and focus
Burnout recovery doesn’t happen by pushing yourself harder. It happens by helping your nervous system come out of constant survival move. You don’t lose your drive or ambition. Instead, you gain the capacity to move through your life with more clarity, energy, and balance.
Contact me for a free consultation for Therapy in California and Utah
Many of the women I work with spent months thinking about reaching out before they finally did. If you’re feeling burned out and wondering whether therapy might help, we can start with a 15-minute consultation call.
During that time, we’ll briefly talk about what has been going on, what you’re hoping to change, and ask questions to get a sense of how I approach therapy. If I am not the right person to help, I will do my best to connect you with someone who is.
Contact me at (760)209-6511 for your free 15 minute consultation for therapy in California or Utah. My specialties include burnout, anxiety, chronic stress, grief, and trauma.
Frequently Asked Questions About Therapy With Me
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High-achieving women often normalize burnout for a long time.
If you are constantly exhausted, more irritable than you want to be, mentally foggy, emotionally numb, or quietly questioning how long you can keep this pace, it is more than “just stress.”
You don’t need to wait until you are falling apart to get support. If pushing harder is no longer working, that is enough.
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This is a common fear.
Our work is steady and contained. Nothing is opened without support. We build regulation and stability alongside processing so you are not left raw or destabilized.
You don’t lose control in this process. You build capacity.
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Your time matters.
I offer both standard and 90-minute sessions so we can work efficiently and go deeper without feeling rushed. Many busy professionals prefer longer sessions because they allow for meaningful progress without adding multiple appointments to the calendar.
We set clear goals and work in a structured way. This is focused, intentional therapy.
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Yes.
Many of my clients are competent, self-aware, and used to solving problems on their own. EMDR is especially helpful when insight alone has not shifted the pattern.
If you understand your burnout but still feel stuck in overdrive, this approach is often a strong fit.
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Fit matters.
If you are looking for therapy that is honest, structured, and focused on real change, we will work well together. If you prefer a very passive or purely supportive approach without challenge, I may not be the best match.
A consultation call allows us to determine whether this feels aligned before you commit.
In-person and remote options for Therapy in California and Utah
I offer easily accessible virtual therapy in California and Utah for women experiencing burnout, anxiety, chronic stress, grief, and effects from traumatic experiences.